How not to disconnect from your true Desires

Recognizing and honoring all your desires is the basis of finding your true self. This involves recognizing your soul’s desire, your mind’s desire, your hearts desire and your body’s desire. Staying in touch with and honoring all your desires gives you a clear direction in life and ensures personal success. Honoring a desire does not mean you have to act on it.

We however create in our lives blocks that interfere with the process of our establishing our true desires. John Gray in his book “How to get what you want and want what you have” suggests twelve ways in which people disconnect from their feelings. These are revenge, attachment, doubt, rationalization, defiance, submission, avoidance, justification, rejection, withholding, reaction and sacrifice. He suggests dealing with such feelings as follows;

1) Get mad not even- When we feel the need to hurt or make someone suffer, we are not in harmony with our true nature of being loving. By learning to release blame with forgiveness you free yourself from the tendency to waste your energy and power in trying to get even. When you let go of revenge you take back your power to be happy and fulfilled within yourself without depending on the outside.

2) Give up attachment and keep desiring- When our hearts are not healed from a loss, like that of a relationship, we continue to hold on to what is no longer available to us. When we learn to let go, accept and trust change we clearly experience that every change no matter how tragic always opens the door to more.

3) Doubt your doubts- To access your creative power to solve problems and create what you want, you have to starts from uncertainty. By shifting doubt into uncertainty, you are free to begin believing again in the possibilities that exist. Most anxiety is caused by believing our fear instead of remembering that we really do not know. Letting go of doubt allows you to focus on what you want rather than waste your power resisting what you do not want.

4) Recognizing your rationality- We block feelings of our true desires by rationalizing away our true desires. If we can take time to write down our thoughts, feelings, and desires we can listen to what is going on inside. Rationalization can cover up our feelings of remorse which allow us to self correct. We may do something that hurt others but by rationalizing we deny our souls’ desires to be

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